by Dr. Randy Gilchrist, LDS Psychologist
www.LDSdimension.com (FREE LDS online dating site)
One of the most common complaints I hear from LDS singles from 18-80 is, "where can I meet someone?" And by someone, they are meaning a basically good, nice, decent fellow LDS single member who would make for good commitment material, perhaps even a temple marriage. Many complain that "there is nobody out there" or "all of the good ones are taken". Nobody? All of the good ones? Not true. And it's a good thing you only need one. I think you can eventually find one good one. But I need you to believe that as well and go on the hunt.
There are many potential answers to "where can I find good fellow LDS singles". The short answer to this question is, go where such people tend to be, and don't waste your time in places where they tend not to be. More specifically, these are the 5 best places to meet good LDS dating partners--
Possible Places to Find Good Fellow LDS Singles:
*If You Can Move, Move: I understand that many people cannot move to a place with a higher quantity of LDS singles because of work, kids and co-parenting, or other practical/family issues. For others who have more flexibility and mobility, moving to an area with more LDS singles simply gives one more quantity to find quality. Areas with the most LDS singles (and members in general) are in the West: Utah, Idaho, Arizona, and parts of Colorado, Nevada, and Southern California. If you can move to one of these areas, this will give you more dating opportunities. However, unless you are truly committed to searching someone to date, I would hold off on moving to meet someone. Conversely, for those serious about dating and possessing the ability to do so, moving may be a good idea for you.
*Online Dating: LDS dating online is convenient and there can be a large number of possible people to date. The main challenge of online dating is that for it to be successful with singles living in areas with fewer members, people often are required to get involved in long distance relationships. If this is a practical option/possibility for you, long distance travel involving a long drive or even plane flights may be what is required. However, with the right person, such travel would be worth it. Suggestion: www.ldsdimension.com, run by and for fellow LDS members.
*LDS Singles Wards and Activities: For those fortunate enough to still have a local singles ward, this is a built in opportunity to meet fellow active single members each Sunday for 3 hours. Such wards, along with stake and regional singles activities, offer various periodic activities beyond church: Family Home Evening groups, dances, firesides, and other events, etc. If the local singles ward or stake/regional singles activities are not bringing in enough quality people to meet and choose from, you may wish to drive further to places where additional larger or different events are taking place. Will someone with good dating potential be at one of these locals? You won't know unless you go. And socialize.
*The Temple: When a local temple exists within reasonable driving distance, regularly attending the temple or even working as an ordinance worker can bring you around high quality fellow LDS singles. And with the recent change in church policy that singles can now officiate in temple ordinances and act as regular temple workers, such opportunities can bring like minded and worthy singles together unlike any time before.
*Introductions: if you have some good friends or family members who are strong in the church, they may know another good fellow LDS single person to introduce you to, whether locally or long distance. Ask them! Having a fellow acquaintance like this can be a great way to meet good LDS singles. The friend or family member knows both of you and can often figure is the two of you would make a great match. And often they are correct.
Final Thoughts:
Finding a good member to date and marry can be very challenging. I recommend that you proactively search and hunt for the best opportunities in places like those mentioned in this article. Find a good spouse. Date, and eventually marry in the temple. Have hope and faith. Search. Choose. That is the way it should be. Because "…neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 11:11).
Sincerely,
Dr. G
| 2017-09-03 | Randy Gilchrist | Dating |
About the author
Hello, my name is Dr. Randy Gilchrist (aka "Dr. G"). I am a licensed clinical psychologist, a licensed marriage & family therapist, and a certified hypnotherapist in private practice in Roseville, CA (www.dr-rg.com), practicing since 1997. Also, I am happily married in the temple (Manti) since 1996 and have 4 sons. I am a volunteer writer and contributor to LDS Dimension. I use my training, education, and experience to share insights with LDS Dimension on all things of interest to the LDS dating community. Please read my articles and columns on this site to assist you in your online dating journey. Also, to be considered for an answer in a future Q and A column, please email me your dating/relationship oriented questions to drgilchrist@yahoo.com. Finally, I also offer a powerful, effective worldwide custom hypnosis recording service just for LDS Dimension members for weight loss, pornography, and many other issues of concern to those in the LDS dating community (please learn more now at www.dr-rg.com/lds; email me questions to drgilchrist@yahoo.com).