My husband and founder of LDS Dimension, Shawn Gordon, and I also run a group on Facebook called LDS Dating, which provides another way to meet and interact with people. After watching and helping many people meet both here and there, we have talked about things that can help people be more successful in our Facebook group. Here is the list we put together.
1.DO get involved in conversations on posts. This allows you to see who has similar ideals as yourself and may lead to continuing conversations in messaging.
DON'T post pictures saying 'Who want's to marry (or date) me?'. This doesn't typically work the way you think it's going to. Plus, it's a passive way to get involved; relying solely on others responses.
2. If you post pictures (like selfie sunday) DO make sure you have good lighting and angles. Put effort into your appearance. Be modest. Google how to take good pics if you feel like yours are lacking.
DON'T post pics that are unflattering; dark exposure or unflattering angles.
3. DO be understanding that everyone is at their own place in regards to conversion and keeping covenants. It's not our job to judge them or 'make them' see the right. It's our job to be an example and have charity.
4. DO pursue your passions and be active in your life. Do things that develop your emotional, physical, spiritual and financial health. Relax and have faith that if you do your part, your life will be happy regardless of your marital status.
DON'T obsess about being in a relationship or put your life on hold until you find someone.
5. DO have FUN with dating. Enjoy the process of getting to know others while finding what you want/need in a relationship.
DON'T think that a PM means something significant. DON't think that a date means potential marriage. DON'T stress about defining a relationship. A friend request isn't dangerous, it isn't a proposal of marriage, it's an attempt to chat. At the absolute worst case, you just block them.
To finish up, here is a link with tips on how to take a good selfie.
| 2016-08-11 | Carly Gordon | Dating, Healthy relationships, Communication |
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