As a single member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, there are numerous ways you can work to increase you dating stock. You can improve your spirituality, your looks, your economic situation, your conversational skills, etc. One particular element of your social skills that can especially help your dating prospects is to develop a good sense of humor.
A good sense of humor is a great way to endear yourself to the opposite sex. It helps to break the ice in socially anxious situations. Funny people come across as more attractive, wittier, more intelligent, and overall, more enjoyable to be around. Therefore, it behooves you to improve this part of your social skills to improve your dating life and social life in general. In this brief article I will outline several suggestions and ideas that you can help sharpen and strengthen your sense of humor.
Suggestions for Boosting Your Sense of Humor:
*Study people who are funny. Pay attention to actors in TV, movies, comedy specials, etc. that you find to be funny and have a great sense of humor. Pick up on their mannerisms: tone of voice, body language, facial expressions. Borrow and practice some of their ways, as well as whatever jokes, teasing, and comedy you connect with and can relate to. Most professional comedians borrowed from previous comedians they admired and were inspired by. You can do the same.
*Regularly watch, listen to, or read shows or materials you find funny. Collect some favorite funny movies or comedy specials that you find especially humorous and watch them. The more often you can laugh, the more in tune with comedy that you become, which will help your own sense of humor (plus give you ideas to borrow from). Just be careful. Some comedy materials can be pretty raunchy or inappropriate. Find some cleaner sources of comedy.
A few suggestions: Dry Bar Comedy (www.drybarcomedy.com). This is a comedy club with cleaner comedy out of Provo, Utah. You can look up their website, download their app, or look up their Facebook page to see many good videos from their comedy shows there. Also, you can get Sirius/XM Satellite radio and hear the Laugh USA or Comedy Roundup: 2 pretty clean comedy radio stations.
*Develop friendships with funny friends and spend some regular time together. Pick up ideas from funny friends to incorporate yourself. Practice telling little jokes to him or her as well. Since they are funny, being able to make them laugh is a good barometer of how well your sense of humor is coming along. Also, feel free to ask them questions and accept pointers from them. Simply put: if you want to be better at something, hang around someone who is better at that thing. They will lead, guide, teach, and offer role modeling for you to promote improvement.
*Regularly Utilize self-help materials that promote the development of a better sense of humor. There are numerous books, videos, and audios devoted to he develop and strengthen your sense of humor. Here are a few recommended resources to help get you started:
Books:
How to Be Funny by Raj Farkus
The Comic Toolbox by John Vorhaus
Laugh Tactics by Patrick King
Hypnosis Audio Sessions:
https://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/communication-skills/be-funny
https://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/personal-development/lighten-up
https://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/fun-hypnosis/laugh-more
*Research and Practice Telling Jokes:
Research jokes to tell online or from other sources. Find some you find funny. Review and rehearse telling these jokes in front of a mirror. Also, practice telling your jokes and record them on video. What do you see in the mirror? What do you notice in the video? Do you look, sounds, and act funny? If not, what needs correcting and adjusting? Make the adjustments and repeat until you come across funny, as well as confident and in control of your delivery. Then, of course, practice regularly from there with real people. Keep doing what works, change and improve what does not. Actors rehearse and get into character, and so can you. If you think of comedy and having a sense of humor as a choice and a skill, choose to be funny. And work at it until you are good at it.
Final Thoughts:
Please work on and improve your sense of humor. It will be an important part of your social success. The ideas in this article will help improve your ability to be funny. Please work on these ideas, and increased dating opportunities will present themselves. Even if you haven’t been very funny before, you can learn to be. And remember, “…neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord.”—1 Corinthians 11:11
Dr. G
P.S. If you can questions, comments, or a future article request for me, feel free to contact me at drgilchrist@yahoo.com.
| 2019-08-05 | Randy Gilchrist | Dating |
About the author
Hello, my name is Dr. Randy Gilchrist (aka "Dr. G"). I am a licensed clinical psychologist, a licensed marriage & family therapist, and a certified hypnotherapist in private practice in Roseville, CA (www.dr-rg.com), practicing since 1997. Also, I am happily married in the temple (Manti) since 1996 and have 4 sons. I am a volunteer writer and contributor to LDS Dimension. I use my training, education, and experience to share insights with LDS Dimension on all things of interest to the LDS dating community. Please read my articles and columns on this site to assist you in your online dating journey. Also, to be considered for an answer in a future Q and A column, please email me your dating/relationship oriented questions to drgilchrist@yahoo.com. Finally, I also offer a powerful, effective worldwide custom hypnosis recording service just for LDS Dimension members for weight loss, pornography, and many other issues of concern to those in the LDS dating community (please learn more now at www.dr-rg.com/lds; email me questions to drgilchrist@yahoo.com).